First of all I want to tell you that I am not going to try to steal cigarettes away from you. Either you want to stop or you don’t want to stop. There is no point in doing for others either, say if your partner wants you to stop and you want to please him or her. It won’t work in the long term.
Smoking actually gives people things… People who smoke are in a kind of relationship with smoking. Some might say that smoking is their best friend, something that is always there for them when they are feeling stressed or anxious. A friend that is there for when they have had a bad day at work or an arguement at home with a loved one.
So lets talk about loving smoking, you must love smoking right?. Maybe you once did and now you’re not so sure. Maybe you love smoking too much to free yourself from it?. People love or think they love all kinds of people, substances or ideas that undermine them or maybe you feel that you hate smoking now but feel yourself caught up in that honey trap of addiction.
So why do I suggest you should love smoking?. Just for a moment I want you to think of smoking not as a habit but as a deal. Think for a moment about your deal with smoking…. The pleasure you get with smoking. the seeming benefits. For instance you learned at the beginning when you were young that smoking helped you form an identity, a way to be in the cool group with your peers. Perhaps it made you feel a bit cooler, to fit in or whatever.
It might be a case now that you have come to feel, like millions of others that smoking helps you relax or socialise because you connect to other smokers. Perhaps it gives you something to do with your hands. Maybe smoking feels comfortable familiar, perhaps kind of like a friend who is always there for you in the good times and in the bad. It could be a case that you now smoke just to feel normal.